Do you have children? Does your kid sometimes go into trouble? My son and his friends played basketball and his friends got into trouble. Actually, he is not involve in the trouble but his friends, since he was with them, they included him just the same .I talked to both sides to know what really happened. As long as i do not imply the other side's interests are unimportant or illegitimate, i can afford to take a strong stance in setting forth the seriousness of my concern of the trouble my son's involvement. To show my openness about the situation, i told them "correct me if i am wrong". It seems they do not correct me, thus meaning they accept the description of the situation of my son and his friends