Hello dear friends, how are you doing? As I promised you, here is “How to Improve Your Self-Esteem?” (Part II). Here you will find useful advices on how to improve it and also other suggestions about how to live a good life and be a better person in the world.
Advices to Improve Your Self-Esteem
To build your self-esteem, you must establish yourself as the master of your own life. Every minute of your life is a time you can use to improve and make things better. If you have been postponing some task or action for long hours of your day, do not suffer about it or penalize yourself because of it, shift your focus to the present moment and what you can do. Start with the smallest thing you think can handle compared to the most important task.
I present you some advices on it, but first watch a video about confidence to prepare yourself to the following topics that will allow you to promote the upward impulse for the construction of a better self-esteem:
1. Start with Small Steps
Start with something you can do immediately and easily. When we begin performing tasks and become successful, we build the impulse to gain more confidence in our capabilities. Each completed task, no matter how small it seems to be, is an important step in building your trust. What small actions can you do immediately to demonstrate that you are capable of achieving the goals you set for yourself? For example, clean your desk, organize your papers, pay your bills, go for a walk, or write a shopping list.
2. Create a Convincing Vision
Use the power of your imagination. Create an image of yourself as being a confident person that you aspire to become. When you are this person, how do you feel? How do others perceive it? What body language do you use? How do you talk? Imagine this clearly in your mind, with your eyes closed. Feel the things, feelings, the experience of being and seeing from that person's point of view. This is an exercise widely used by athletes to increase their confidence levels. In fact, it is a tool that we all have at our disposal: the ability to simulate (imagine) scenarios that we want to happen. Practice regularly. Put a background music that relaxes or powers yourself up. When you are done, memorize this state, the sensations and attitudes you have had, and how empowering and energizing they are.
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3. Socialize Yourself
Leave the house, invite a friend for lunch. Coexisting with others will provide opportunities to establish contact with other people, and practice effective communication and interpersonal relationships.
4. Do Something Venturesome
The same way it happens with all skills, we get better as we keep repeating and practicing. The more often you set out to do some of the things that frighten you, or you feel difficulty, the less scary these situations seem and the more prepared you will feel to face them and/or perform them. The mere fact of proposing to face some things or situations in which you feel less capable or more troubled, will allow you to distrust your incapacity. You will probably find that the fear was baseless, or even that there is justification for that fear, which also has the ability to face it and be successful.
5. Do Something You Are Good At
What is it that you are especially good at and enjoy doing? Regularly doing things that you are good at, reinforces belief in your skills and strengths. Propose yourself to do what you do well and what you like, reinforce yourself and praise yourself. Notice how you do these things, what state you are in when you feel energized. When you sit in unison with the task, what do you say to yourself? What are your expectations? What is your state of mind? No one is good at everything they do, and no one is bad at everything they do. Try not to use all-or-nothing qualifications of yourself. Realize that there are things that you do very well and take this into consideration.
6. Define Goals
According to a study carried out at Virginia Tech University, 80% of Americans say that they have no goals. And people who regularly set goals gain nine times over their lifetime, compared to those who do not. By setting clear, practical, and achievable goals, you have a target toward which you can move. With goal setting, the steps and actions you take are directed towards achieving a result. When you take a set of steps to achieve that goal (clear and specific), you will build more confidence and self-esteem in your abilities to move forward.
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7. Help Others Fell Good
Help someone or teach somebody something. When you help other people feel better and like them, it will surely make you feel good about yourself. See what you can do to make others feel good or encourage them to smile. Maybe giving them a real compliment by helping them out with something or telling them that you admire them. The social interaction, the coexistence, and the mutual help are foundations and pillars of construction of the happiness of each one of us. They are factors promoting well-being because, as human beings, we are gregarious beings, in other words, we have the need to live in groups and in contact with others. Contact and sharing are two prerequisites for good development and healthy growth. It is in human interaction and contact that life is founded. The bonds and feelings that are created are promoters of self-esteem and self-confidence.
8. Get Everything Clear in the Various Areas of Life
Strive for clarity in areas of life that need your attention the most. Your self-esteem is related to your self-concept in all important areas of your life. Write down all the major categories of your life (sentimental, financial, professional, social, personal, family, sexual, among others). Then evaluate on a scale of 1-10 in each area. Work in the categories that scored lower. Each area affects the other areas. In this way invest in getting better well-being in areas of life that you perceive as less satisfying, analyze weaknesses and strengths, and set up a way to minimize or improve the problem. Sometimes one of the common mistakes that people make is to perceive some areas of their lives as in need of improvement, so they start some actions, and if they spend some time checking that they do not improve, they give up. I note that some changes and/or improvements take time to take effect, so you should not expect a sudden improvement, but in the medium or long term.
9. Build a Plan
Having a goal by itself may not have the desired effect. You should try to clarify what is necessary to achieve the objectives you propose. One of the main reasons some of us stuck in the way or see our will paralyzed to do something is because we do not build a plan to achieve the desired goals. Sometimes we do not know the next step to be taken, we move at random, not having a correct notion to where we are going or if we are moving away from what we want. When you set out to make a cake, you will certainly be much more successful if you follow the clear and specific recipe instructions than throwing ingredients randomly into the bowl.
10. Motivate Yourself
Read something inspirational, listen to music that energizes you, talk to someone who can raise your spirits. Look for something that can motivate you to become a better person, to live more consciously, and to take preventive measures to create a better life for you and for others. Try to understand what moves you, what gives you energy, what makes you get up early from bed, what gives you an enormous desire to reach and achieve something. If you can not find or feel it, imagine what you would like to do. It can be little things or great things, that's not the most important, what really matters is to see how you energize yourself and where you want to put that energy. Usually, both things are together, that is, what gives us energy is exactly what we want to apply our energy to. It's like a positive feedback, we start to like doing something or imagine doing something, and when we propose to do it, automatically, it gives rise to more desire to continue. In this way, motivating yourself to do something is always a win/win strategy.
Use affirmations, but adaptively. I do not mean vain, empty, hollow statements, where we simply say a few positive things in the hope that this will work. The statements are very empowering and guiding, but only if they are supported and accompanied by actions. Sitting on the couch and saying," I am very motivated and energized to produce", only this phrase will add nothing to your life. Say something like "I'm sitting here on this couch, I feel unproductive, is this ideal for me? What could I do?" Your statement has to be felt and consistent with what you want to accomplish. Once you are honest with yourself, propose to do something, even one small step, according to your statement.
12. Stop Comparing Yourself to Others
Stop comparing yourself to other people. Low self-esteem comes from the sentiment of feeling inferior to others. For example, if you were the only person in the world, do you think you could have low self-esteem? Self-esteem only comes into play when there are other people around us and we realize that we are inferior. Do not worry about what your neighbor is doing. Realize what you want, what you are capable of, and eventually what you have to improve or change to achieve your goals or dreams. While we may all have an almost innate tendency to compare, try to relativize as much as you can when you feel you are comparing. We may have some people who serve as a model, but if so, this should serve to realize where we should work or develop to get closer to what we want and not to depreciate. Certainly, if we compare ourselves with someone who serves as a model, we are probably a few steps behind. If we take a constructive and positive view we will start a set of actions and step by step we will gradually go on to obtain the desired result.
So, this is the end of this incredible job about self-esteem. I am so glad I made it to all of you and stay tuned for more! Thanks so much for reading!