It happens so often in today's society it is almost expected. Couples meet, like each other, get pregnant and then split. The child is in the cross-hairs and it sets them up for a life of uncertainty. I know a lot of people, step up to the plate. And a lot of mothers do an excellent job on their own. But the cold hard fact is, it is much harder than it should be.

I know my views are not the norm for 2014. I raised two sons and a daughter and I told them all the same thing. A baby changes your life. Don't have one until you are sure. But it was different for my daughter. I drove the point home. She could prevent it. She could take something to make it not happen until she was ready. And it was her body and her life that would be altered the most. If he chose to walk away, the fact is, it would be easier to do.

Yes I believe my sons have responsibilities too. I had the "No party hat, no party" conversation many times. I warned them. I drove the point home.

But the fact remains. Sexist or not. A woman has the ability and the obligation to protect herself.