If you've ever read any of my posts, you know I'm definitely not a "June Cleaver mom", so please don't get the wrong idea from the title alone!
I just legitimately wonder if it's wrong (or perfectly justified) for me to allow (or expect) my husband participate in small amounts of housework.
I will say that I do the majority of the chores around here, including (but not limited to) keeping the bills paid, taking the kids to school, cleaning toilets, washing and drying laundry, dishes, litter box, dusting, vacuuming, mopping, and basic tidying up. Basically, when he gets home from work at 3:30, the house is presentable to the point that it's clear that I have, in fact, done something.
But I'll also admit that there are a few things that I often neglect, such as folding and putting away laundry, cleaning mirrors and windows, and any real "deep cleaning" which only gets done every once in a while. (Really, with these kids, there are certain things that are nothing more than a huge waste of time trying to keep up with!)
And then there are things that I almost never do, that my husband is generally in charge of -- taking out the trash, grocery shopping and dinner. (No judgement -- he LIKES to cook and hates my cooking for the most part!)
Anyway, I just want to know if I should feel guilty for giving him any responsibilities outside of going to work 5 days a week?
I mean, I know if I were to go back to work, we'd have to split everything up 50/50 (ish) but I'd also be bringing in an actual income, so that makes sense. But then again, he works 40 hours a week and gets the weekends off, when I still have to keep up with some things around here. He gets to leave work at work, while I pretty much live at work, and don't get holidays or vacation or sick days!
And don't get me wrong, I totally enjoy it and I do get a lot of free time (how else would I be able to be on Bubblews so much!). But I do wonder if, over time, he'll have an epiphany and realize that he's doing way more than most husbands do! (Or not, I don't know?)
How is housework split up in your house and who is responsible for the income in your family?
What amount of "extra work" is fair for the person who "brings home the bacon" in a family so to speak?
I'm curious to hear your opinions on this!