1. You have to - you and do it.
Every time, it is worth asking the question, "Who cares?" When in conversation sounds the word "must" when it comes to the debt or obligation. Manipulators like to keep quiet about the fact that the desired need them in the first place. For example, the phrase parents, "You need to find a job," purified of manipulation, would sound like this: "I need you to stop sitting on my neck and went to work." In the meantime, the young man did not have to go to work, it is convenient to sit on the neck.

2. Do not promise. If you promised - Run.
Remember how often under the pressure of other people you have given rash promises. The manipulator will specifically push you make rash promises, and then exploit your guilt. Just do not promise, but if we promised - follow. Then the next time think twice before you take on extra responsibilities.

3. Do not ask - do not go.
It often happens that we are guided by good intentions, make it worse. We just did not ask for help. Then our efforts are taken for granted. Even worse, when, instead of one person asks another. Helping in this situation, we are violating the law and even "You have to - you are and do." If it seems obvious to you that the person needs help, take the opportunity to ask him if he was ready to accept it is up to you. Suddenly the girl who got stuck in the heel drain grating rigged specifically to meet there so cute kid. And you, beech, and took all the spoil. Could the same at least ask.

4. The request is not denied.
Any request involves gratitude. Manipulators tend to give empty promises or forget about the services. Perform the request, but do not hesitate to ask for the return service. Perhaps even beforehand.

5. Live a real (as opposed to the past and not the future).
One of the most important laws, it makes it easy to destroy comparing manipulation with you in the past. We never want to be worse than itself, it is often used by other people. For example, keying "Before, you had not been so" easily broken "used to be before." Sweet promises of the future, promises half the killed bear's skin immediately terminated after the question "So it will be then, and now exactly do you propose?".

6. Do not be attached.
How often do we become attached to a person, object or activity? How this attachment can be strong without putting our composure under threat? Each your answer to this question. Just remember: with these emotional connections you easily blackmailed. Do not let your loved ones get home by terrorists, do not sink.

7. Do not set a goal (the goal is to serve as a beacon)
For me, it was the strange law. For me it is important to be highly motivated. To understand its wisdom, it took me some time. That's why I prefer it with the addition of the wording about the lighthouse. If the goal is set incorrectly, then once it comes to achieve the devastation. Most likely, this goal imposed on you from the outside. So always ask yourself or the people, inspiring you on the accomplishments, the question, "What next?". Take for example, is still one of the favorite phrases of all parents: "You need to get a higher education." And then what? Being a realtor, sales consultant or start your business can do without higher education.

8. Do not bother. The most brilliant of all the laws.
They can and must be used in respect of themselves, and in relation to other people. The phrase "Do not disturb, please" can work wonders. The main thing - to say it before you start to feel irritation.

9. There is no bad weather. Act with the greatest philosophical potential.
He learns to use every opportunity, including their mistakes. It is formulated differently in other systems. For example, in NLP it sounds like this: "There are no injuries, there is only feedback." So many of the surrounding will be happy to remind you of your failures or complain about how bad it around. With this approach easily influence your mood. In such cases, remember: there are no good or bad, there is only your attitude.

10. Do not judge, do not criticize. Sometimes it is very hard to control myself and not to criticize other people.
Only criticism is no use to anybody - neither you nor others. Keep this in mind. When you once again to be condemned, listen, but do not criticize in return. Here are my questions for the holder of such judges, "And what of it?", "How do you propose to change this situation?", "Why do you think only your assessment of the situation is correct?". And the best just do not get bad in the head, and heavy - in his hands.

11. Do not transmit information without making it his (experience, skills, abilities)
If you do not check the information that spread further, you turn into a gossip. You say stop believing. This will gladly take advantage of your enemies. Communicating with other people, ask about how they checked the information they tell you. Most of all it does not test, becoming a victim of undercover games or political propaganda.

12. Everywhere and always ask permission. The law of the etiquette field.
Its use is not only insure you against extra effort, but you will create the image of a polite person. Just inquire with inner certainty, otherwise you will look like a weirdo ever doubting. By the way, this law I could not help using, offering to ask whether a person needed help. Similarly, other laws and relate to each other, thereby creating a mental shield against manipulation. Use it with a smile, as well as in the performance of asanas.