A good wife is often not found, a good husband is also often not found! Instead, spouses grow together into a good husband and a good wife!
In a sense, marriage is the beginning of becoming a better person. So when you search for the right spouse, you need to be a good and sincere person first; find a good decent and sincere spouse that you both can grow together in to a righteous husband and wife!
The fancy attitude of searching for the ideal spouse is way impractical; the ideal spouse is made rather than found, and the way to make him/her is by being good yourself!!!