How Can You Court The Girl You Like

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There are different cultures around the world and each of us is practicing our own unique way of life. The one thing that cuts across all these cultures is that a man pursues the woman. Modernize it however you please, but usually, it should be the man who courts the woman, not the woman courting the man. Courting is like a negotiation that involves giving and taking. Find out what qualities she would find attractive and carry yourself best so that these qualities, which you presumably have, can be seen.

Courtship consists in a number of quiet attentions, not so pointed as to alarm, nor so vague as not to be understood.

-Laurence Sterne

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Learn the difference between dating and courting, especially in modern society. Dating can be done without serious commitment while courting means that both of you are choosing to commit to one another exclusively. You are looking at a possible future together and hoping that the relationship will lead to marriage.

Determine if you’re ready because it’s not something that should be done on a whim. It’s a serious step to pursue a woman and most courtships are between a couple trying to discover if marriage is possible in the future. If it sends a shiver down your spine reading the word, “marry,” don’t worry, we all get it. It’s a big commitment and courting will be your first move to get there. Given below are the ways to impress the girl you like.

 1. CONSISTENCY is a must.

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The character you display should not be a fluid concept, learn to have a consistent personality. In this way, the girl you are courting will be confident in the kind of person you are and trusting you becomes easier. If you have a feeling that this woman may be the woman of your life, you have to work for it. So, if you’re interested in her, you’ll have to pursue her no matter what.

2. Pay RESPECT all the time.

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Make sure that your actions don’t degrade her position on any matter. Discuss with her what she thinks are good physical boundaries. Some girls don’t even allow kissing while some are more casual and allow physical touch throughout the courtship. Discussing this with her is vital because you don’t want to overstep a boundary and turn her off.

3. Show genuine CONSIDERATION.

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Kindness is a precursor of love, it measures how tender you can be without losing your macho. You can show it in many ways like saying, "thank you" to a waiter or a simple "hello" to the guard at the door, subtle things that speak volumes. Befriend with her friends and be amicable towards them. She will appreciate you more if you make the lives of those you interact with that much easier.

4. Be a true GENTLEMAN.

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Show her that you know what it means to be a gentleman by having good manners around others. Be someone who says thank you and wishes people that offer services to you a good day. From little surprises to the opening of car doors, these are the simple things that women desire when they are being courted. It doesn’t have to be a big gesture, small ones can still make her feel how much you really care.

5. Have PATIENCE and take it slow.

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When you are starting out, it will take a bit of time before she gets comfortable to hold hands with you. Get to know her on a friend basis rather than getting that first kiss you have been looking forward to from the moment you saw her. There’s nothing more terrifying than meeting a guy who’s already on his knees, ready to pop the question, so why not start off as friends? Learn more about her, then, decide if you want to proceed or not. Take the pressure off and enjoy each moment with her.

6. Give COMPLIMENTS and make her LAUGH.

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Notice the outfit she is wearing and recognize her attempts at humor and laugh at her jokes. Keep things fun so that it’s easier for her to be open and comfortable around you. A woman loves a man who can make her happy and humor is one of the best ways to make a girl fall for you. Come on, this is what you want, right?

7. Ensure strong COMMUNICATION.

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It is always wise to update her on the status of your courtship. Don’t make a girl wonder what you are thinking or where you stand. Make an effort to call her and let her know she’s on your mind. This will give you a chance to further woo her and to get to know what she’s looking for in a partner. Give her the stability that will allow her to enjoy your company without wondering what the next step will be.

8. Speak your mind HONESTLY.

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Be direct when the moment requires it and make sure she’s on the same page as you. Let her know you’re serious about figuring out if marriage is in the future so that there are no frustrations or confusions from either party. Focus your attention on the one girl you’re courting and never court three girls at one time. This isn’t Tinder, courtship is exclusive and more serious.

9. Get ready to MEET THE PARENTS.

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Some families place a high value on the man’s participation in the family and her family has a right to know you. They want to see if they can trust you before they allow their daughter to be courted by you. Courtship has a lot to do with family and community interaction, mostly because it’s mainly prevalent in classic conservative circles who value healthy relationships. You shouldn’t cede parts of yourself in an attempt to please her parents, but be yourself in the most polite way. Tell them your real intentions with her and prove to them that you would be a good fit for their daughter.

Final Remarks

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If she’s picky and used to constantly filtering guys out, be patient with her. Once you realize that she’s a keeper, make a plan to turn that spark into a flame. While all the other dudes are busy left-swiping and too scared to really show up, go ahead and do your market research. Find out her hobbies, her dislikes, and tailor your approach so that you can stand out from the crowd.

You become susceptible to rejection and disappointment once you put yourself out there. But hey, what is a life worth living if your strategy is just to avoid pain? Take a risk, go after her, and think about one thing you can do every day to make her smile. You don’t need to rush with intensity but remind yourself that her heart needs to be tended to with care and adoration on a daily basis.

What you should know is that a woman wants you to work out how to be a real man on your own and be that man for her. Every girl wants a guy that she feels lucky to be with and every man deserves to be with someone who treats him well. Don’t risk getting seriously involved with a woman who is dishonest, untrustworthy, and selfish. Take your time to find your perfect match and know the importance of momentum. Here’s a little secret for your relationship to last: courtship doesn’t end when you finally get the girl, that’s actually where it just begins.



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