1. Never laugh SON
For a man mocking a woman - always a trauma, maternal ridicule - it is a very deep injury. Whether you laugh over the fact that he accidentally put his pants on the left side, over the fact that the curve of the dog painted, or on the fact that the girl confessed his love for a neighboring desk. Your smile will be remembered for a lifetime! And it will never be forgiven ...
2. ALWAYS answer all questions
Any age! And no "because gladiolus" or "grow -Learn." Always - all. Do not know the answer - say so. Then ask - and answer. Embarrassing? The question of the child made you blush? Excellent - you can now analyze your one complex. But this is - YOUR complex. Do not embed it in the psyche of the child. Answer that question put you in a dead end, and you need to collect my thoughts. Ask for a response delay. Children usually it is easy to give.
3. Requests the son BOARD DECISIONS
You can not imagine how easily a child can sometimes solve your "adult" problem, over which you fought more than one year! Any! from "What is our future apartment should be" to "why I always quarrel with someone" and "I'm doing wrong." So the boy learns to be a man - a support and make decisions. And you show him your trust and respect.
4. FORGET THE WORDS "I told you so!"
Even if you say, but he did not listen - plug this song! Forever. You may not compete with the child in whatever that may be, and "I told you" - this is a competition in which the mother is happy, "win" ... you were right? Rejoice in silence! He understands everything.
5. The Praise!
Admire, without any "buts" and "only here to correct." Just - "Cool!" Your baby is doing great! When he grows up - he will see for himself that it was necessary to "correct".
6. Supports any of his dreams
"I want to be an underwater archaeologist" - cool! Buy books on the subject. And now, "I want to be an artist." Also - great! Buy books on the subject. And then, "I want to be an engineer" ... scheme realized? Cool! Believe me, he really will be determined only by the age of 20.
7. If the baby cries ...
This means there was a trouble. An insignificant to you (in the garden gave an awful rice porridge instead of your favorite buckwheat), but huge for him! For him any trouble - a giant. Because the world of the child is still too small to get lost in the mess of his scale ... And if trouble happened ... you should calm! No matter how many years the child was. You - obliged - to soothe! This dogma, the laws of your future with the understanding it: the child should not cry inconsolably. Never.
8. Do not lecture him! Also - NEVER.
I hope there is not need comments.
9. you are always on his side!
Not only in words. But in fact. You never assents to teachers who complain about it, never yells at him "for the company" with other family members. In public - he is always right. YOUR SON IS ALWAYS RIGHT!
And then he might not be afraid to ask you about that, "what is porn" or "how to kiss a girl." Because it will know that you're not going to yell at him: "What's that for ?! questions" or "Shame on you!" Because you will trust ... In other words, it will be in YOU SURE. The dream of any mother ... It is possible to achieve.
