Being in a relationship is a big responsibility. You have to give your self to the person you've decided to share your life with. You have to prepare to endure pain and sorrow but of course most of the time it will be joy and contentment if you're lucky. But then as humans, it is in our nature to look for a partner for us to love and care. But sometimes, we get to fall in love with the wrong person.
I have been in a serious relationship for seven long years and I am proud to say that I never had complications with my partner when it comes to trust. We have our little fights but super little that sometimes when I go over them, I just laugh and ask myself, why did I make that a big deal? I am not writing this blog to tell my cheesy love story but to share what my friend is going through now.
I have 31 year old friend who is a single mom of a 9 year old kid. She has been through a lot and been through difficult relationships after his husband left her. After all those heartbreaks, she finally met a man, who in the beginning, was the sweetest man alive. He would smother her with gifts, surprises and a lot of things that a girl would like. Like normal relationships, they have their share of fights that sometimes resulted to break-ups to even packing bags and leave. That is a normal scenario at their little apartment. I, as a friend, keep on telling my friend that her boyfriend is not the man for him. I may sound a little off sometimes but I believe if a man is not making you completely happy, why stay in that relationship? They would argue about little things and make everything a big deal. The man will treat her like she's a bad person and doesn't deserve love. And then sometimes they would spend days in the beach as if nothing happened. Then I would tell her that her boyfriend is sick, mentally sick! Now he is fine, then the other day not. The day I fear came. That sick guy falsely accused, that my friend cheated on him and she's chatting other guys for sex on facebook. This is just so awful! He would post sad quotes on his wall that would make other people think that my friend is really a w***e! I just don't understand why he is such a d**k! He is torturing my friend by sending pictures of him and some other woman! Who is nasty now? And then he is blackmailing my friend too!! I just can't figure out why he is doing this. As of today, I still hear my friend crying over the phone. She is still receiving messages from the guy and we advise her not to make any contact anymore.
With this story, I wonder:
Why do bad things happen to good people?
How can someone recover from this?
