You are the creator of your life, no-one else. Passing blame, being the victim, making excuses, giving up all responsibility and control does not solve anything, and they certainly do not fix the problem. Regardless of the cards you have been dealt, your life is your responsibility.
Give your energy and attention to what you do want all of these to be, instead of always focusing on what you do not like about them or are unhappy with, and then watch how the things you don’t want start to fall away. Why? Because you are no longer focusing on them.